Wednesday, April 29, 2009

April 29, 2009 Letter

To My Forever Child.!!!!!!!

Well, a day your mom and I have been waiting for is here. The Final Visit!! And let me just say, it couldn’t get here fast enough. We have been working so very hard at getting the house ready for the inspection and your arrival. Your room is almost ready. It just needs a few things…the other bed put together, toys, but most of all, someone to fill it. And that is YOU!! Soon, very soon, we will all be together. We want you in our lives so very much.

Last night your mom and I went and heard an amazing author and poet speak – Maya Angelou. Oh my gosh!! She has a wonderful way with words and can put the most complicated of topics easy to understand. One thing she talked about was “being a rainbow in someone’s clouds”. I have to tell you , you are a rainbow in my clouds!! Even though you are not here yet, you have made me a better person. I am so very happy that you will be a part of this family. I really believe our families will have the brightest, most colorful of all.

Guess what, it’s done. We had that final home inspection tonight. Two hours of questions about us and about how much we want you here. I could have gone on for many more hours about how important you are to us. Your mom and I feel pretty good about the visit. They tell us it will be a week or so until we get the results and can begin our search for you. I only wish I had the words to express how excited we are about having you in our lives. You should have seen how your mom lit up when we talked about having you in our family. She loves you with everything she has. And so do I…

Love You Always!!

Friday, April 17, 2009

April 17, 2009 Letter

Good morning my forever child,

I have another friend who wants to say hello. Her name is Sarah, and she and her husband Nathan are amazing people that can't wait to meet you.

Remember I need you and love you.
xoxo Mommy

Dear Sweet Child,

By the time you read this letter I hope to have already met you and been involved in your life, but if that is not the case let me introduce myself, my name is Sarah and I have known your parents for many years. We met through a mutual friend in college. When your Mom and Dad told me that they were adopting you my heart soared at the thought of their long held desire to have a family becoming a reality. I have stood in awe at the love and sacrifices your Mom and Dad have gone through to bring you into their home. Rest assured they loved you long before the day they met you! After much consideration about what I could do to help your parents, I decided to write you this letter and tell you a little about your parents from an "outsiders" view.

I want to start by telling you that I am biased when it comes to your folks. I have always admired their attitude towards life and the way they live it to the fullest. They never avoid their responsibilities but they know when to look on the lighter side of life. That being said let me begin.

When I was young I had a poster on my bedroom wall that read "The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. - Galatians 5:22-23" I was also taught the following verse "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. - 1 Corinthians 13:4-8". As I have grown to know your parents over the years I see these virtues in them. They are always there for their friends and family in times of need. They continually provide words of encouragement, praise and support to those around them. And they support each other with an unfailing love.

Your Mom and Dad will do everything in their power to provide for your every need and want. They will be there to wipe your tears away when you fall and scrape your knee or when your first boyfriend or girlfriend breaks your heart. They will help you celebrate your first steps, your first day of school, and every glorious moment thereafter. They will standby you, stand up for you, and yet let you fly on your own to see what you can achieve. Never doubt the depth of love and need your parents have for you. They will make mistakes like all parents do but know that everything they do comes from the depths of their hearts. If you ever start to doubt your belonging just take a look back and you will see that you have always been a part of their lives even before you came to live with them.

I know when you are young you think your parents are ridiculously overbearing and very uncool, but take it from me they know more than you give them credit for. Listen closely to them and learn all you can and you will be an amazing person!

Love Always,
Sarah Dawes

Thursday, April 9, 2009

April 9, 2009 Letter

To My Forever Child

Your mom has been after me to write you a letter for a while now. It’s not that I don’t want to do it, I’m just not as gifted at writing like your mom is. But I promise, this won’t be the first and last letter you get from me. I promise to always tell you how I feel.

I have so much to say so let’s get started. First of all, I cannot begin to tell you how excited I am that you are going to be a part of our forever family. I have often wondered if I would be a good dad. My dad was awesome to me and I only hope I can at least be half as good as he was and is to me. Everyone tells me that I will be a great dad. The promise I’m going to make to you right now is that I will always do my best to do what is right and make the decisions that I feel will be best for you. Yes, I will mess things up from time to time and you may not always agree with the decisions your mom or I make. But everything I do, I am doing to make your life the best it can be. I won’t always have the answers or the skills to do some things, but we will get through it together! Baseball and hotdogs. Hockey and nachos. Tea with Ted E. Bear. Hopscotch and lemonade. No matter what it is, we are going to have fun together and enjoy many fantastic adventures. And we will do all of these and many more together! I will support you in all that you wish to accomplish. I will be there for you on your greatest achievements. I will be there for the downfalls and the broken hearts. The most important thing I want you to take from this is I WILL BE THERE FOR YOU! And so will mom.

When we found out that your mom could not have kids naturally, it broke my heart. From the time we met and started dating, we talked about what kind of parents we would be. I want you to know that even though mom is “broken” (her words, not mine), she is the love of my life and my very best friend in the world. To me, she is not “broken”. She is a very special lady and will be one fantastic mom. I can’t wait to come home and see her reading to you or working on a color page or even homework. I can’t wait to see her doctoring a boo boo you got because you were a little too big for your britches on the swing. But most of all, I can’t wait to see all of us together. Your mom has a lot of love and knowledge to give too. And believe me, the two of us will make sure you know just how much we love you. You truly have a great mom. In short, your mom ROCKS!!!

Some have brought up the question of the possibility of differences between background or ethnicity. The fact is your mom and I could care less. Black, white, red, yellow…IT DOESN’T MATTER TO US! We have chosen you to be a part of our family. We have chosen you to give all our love to. We have chosen you to complete our family. We will work very hard to bridge gaps and learn about cultures and backgrounds so that you know where you come from and we can respect you in that way. You are very special to us and we only want the best. We will do anything for you. God has led us to you. He has had this planned long before any of us were born. Now we are here to take this journey make this forever family the best it can be.

The time is getting closer and you will be with us. Tomorrow we have two inspections…one from the Fire Department – so you have a safe home to live in – and one from the Health Inspector – to make sure you stay as healthy as possible. After that, we have one more big visit from the state and then we work on getting you here. Each day that passes brings more joy and excitement that I cannot express in words. I would be lying to you if I didn’t tell I was scared to death too. But what parent isn’t the first time they have kids. We are ready for you. We Love You!! We will do everything in our power to make you safe, comfortable, warm, but most of all, you will be wanted and loved!! I guess there is only one other thing to say on this letter…


(Thanks Ty P. for such an awesome phrase!)

With all the love in the world to you,


Wednesday, April 8, 2009

April 8, 2009 letter

Hello, sweet baby,

It has been a while since I was able to write to you, but things have been incredibly busy, getting ready for you. It is almost Easter, now. Tomorrow, we have two inspections, health and fire, to make sure our home is safe for you. Last night we had a short class, then all of the wonderful people in our group decided to go out to dinner and share some relaxed time together. Dad and I had so much fun.

I ran into a high school friend while we were there, and it turns out he only lives a few blocks from us, works with my dad, and knows another couple that is in our class. It was very strange, but wonderful seeing him again. Sometimes I wonder what happened to all the people who were such good friends of mine in high school. It feels like it was forever ago when we all gathered together after graduation, some of us crying, some laughing and some in seeming shock. Knowing that it was an end and a beginning. We had to leave behind the comfort and security of our parent’s homes and make our own way in the world. But we all knew, deep down that our parents would welcome us back with open arms, any time we needed it.

You coming into our lives is another scary end and beginning. I say scary, but in truth it is exciting, terrifying, exhilarating, and heart stopping all at the same time. I worry that we won’t be good enough for you, and that you won’t want us. We want you so badly that it hurts.

There have already been questions. What if you aren’t like us? What will we do? I’m stronger than the people with these doubts and the ugliness they try to bring into our lives. Your dad and I don’t care if you are green, or purple, or magenta or blue, okay, I do care if you are blue, because that means you aren’t breathing and blue is never a good color for a person to be.

My heart is wide open and ready for you, love. I can’t wait to meet you. Miss Amy and Miss Hattie are two of the greatest blessings that have come into our lives lately. I know that whatever questions I have, or concerns, or fears, they can help. They are truly amazing women and I am proud to know them. I hope that someday I can introduce you to them. I’m sure they’d love to meet you.

Come home to me soon, sweetheart. I need you in my life. I love you.